The cool difficult facts are, then this isnвЂ™t going to work if you canвЂ™t handle a poly relationship вЂ“ and not everyone can. IвЂ™ve myself seen folks whom attempted to be cool with being poly before it was over because it was the only way they could be in a relationship with the person they lovedвЂ¦ and it caused everybody no end of grief. Rather than to appear insensitive, you should be the main one to deal with your anxieties. The man you’re seeing is right: this is certainly element of whom he’s, it is one thing you knew moving in, and telling him to improve since you canвЂ™t manage it’snвЂ™t reasonable to him. Just like constantly subjecting your self to misery is not fair for you.
Then the first thing you need to do is get yourself into therapy to deal with your anxieties if you want to try to make a go of this. Merely tossing your self in to the mix and hoping that youвЂ™ll go numb eventually is really an idea that is bad. Having an individual who will allow you to process your emotions and make suggestions whether you continue seeing your boyfriend or not through them will be invaluable. Continue reading “Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Boyfriend Is PolyвЂ¦ And IвЂ™m Maybe Perhaps Not”